Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Catching Your Mermaid Or Merman Out of the Ocean of www - On-Line Dating Tips


"Catching Your Mermaid Or Merman Out of the Ocean of www - On-Line Dating Tips"," This is an ocean, indeed, the ocean of information concerned with all possible aspects of our life.
 Hence, you can pull out of www almost everything you want: music, movies, clothes, furniture, tropical cruises, cars, philosophical concepts and real love: your boyfriend or girlfriend.


The anonymity of the www can go so deep, that you may flirt on-line with a real mermaid while thinking that this is just a girl.


Now, seriously, no scales! For start, and now I am talking about finding your best half on-line, you have to set your mind for the quest.
 Usually people are finding what they are looking for - this is a law of the Universe.
 To make things easy, best of all is to prepare a list, which will help you to determine what are the major features that you want to find in her or him, what kind of things you may accept or ignore, and, finally, what you really would like to avoid.
 However, most important is to do all that right!

When you are posting your profile, describe yourself briefly but precisely, i.
 avoid any ambiguities.
 Your photo must be of high quality, large, recent (important!) and really showing the original (the picture of yourself in scuba gear taken from a passing-by motor boat would not work for you, even if this is your favorite one).
 of potential candidates, which are unacceptable for you.
 Word of caution, though: if you will narrow down your requirements to somewhat as ""I am looking for a model, who is also a role model in life"", be careful: your potential match can be repelled by a thought that you are driven by some inferiority complex, which makes you too picky.
 By all means do not send a generic letter.
 However, do not let yourself to be dragged into a long on-line exchange.
 Give your phone number.
 Better: open separate cell phone account for such calls only.




Before actual meeting, you need to talk to the person by a phone: there are several reasons for doing that.
 Sometimes this may tell you a lot, it can be complete turn-off, but do not put too much into it.
 I almost hang up thinking that I am a victim of a prank, but natural curiosity won, so I set the date, time and place for a meeting.
 Honestly, my jaw dropped down when I saw her: so much the actual appearance contrasted with the slow and squeaky voice which I've heard on the phone.
 One young lady, a friend of mine, had a week-long exchange with a guy, who apparently enchanted her with his writings.
 When he called, his talk was saturated with so many unnecessary colloquial terms, that she became absolutely convinced not to pursue this acquaintance any further.


Transfer from virtual relationship into a real one is a serious deal.
 All is important: where to have a meeting, what to wear, what to talk about, and what better no to talk about too.
 According to my brief study out of 15 men questioned on the subject, 4 proposed meeting in a church (warm, soothing and inexpensive environment), 3 in café, 3 in a restaurant, 2 in night club, 1 invited to his place, 1 offered walk in a park, and one couldn't answer.
 Thus, church might not be the best choice, considering perhaps different religious backgrounds, and the fact that some people are coming there for speaking to God and not to each other.
 Perhaps out of all mentioned places café, restaurant and night club were the best choices.
 You can always find in such places a small café nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is always quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art.
 The odds that you will run into Jack the Ripper are next to none, but less dramatic nuisance is still possible.
 The place must not be completely deserted by people (cemeteries, remote parks or abandoned factories are bad choices), there must be a clear way for retreat.
 Just in case.
 Important to have not only nice, but comfortable clothing, so you will feel firm.
 In other words, one will never have a chance to make a first impression for the second time.


At the first meeting it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives (or husbands) and lovers, about issues with your health, talk about problems at work or touching any religious subjects.
 Of course, you have to listen actively, give short phrases or just words, like ""Is that right?!"", ""Yeah, I see"", ""Interesting"".
 Then your date will open and the talk will be sincere.
 If your date talks only about him(her)self, about his(her) accomplishments, and so on, then, very likely, this person is trying to raise oneself in your eyes.
 If your date talks a lot and in detail about his(her) past relationships, problems at work, etc.
 One of my on-line dates, whom I finally met at a restaurant, almost didn't touch her meals, but talked in a great detail about her past boyfriend, their break-up and how much she still suffers from it.


Clearly, the purpose of a first date is to find out: do you like this person and do you want a continuation.


If you like one you've just met, but have no idea if this feeling is mutual, there are several ways to figure this out.
 I don't know if you feel the same, but if you like, please, call me or write me.
 After that you just have to wait for development.
 Maybe we can go together to cinema (theater, baseball game, restaurant, museum .
"" This is a good option, because the answer will not be not postponed.
com and we live happily ever since) is that this is still a lot of work.
 Many people are getting sucked into this ""game"", they cannot stop out of a fear that tomorrow they may meet someone who is smarter, handsomer, better than their current candidate(s).


Internet became a part of modern culture, and it reflects the society, which created it.
 An opinion, that only losers suffering from inferiority complexes are meeting through the Internet can hurt only those who can mindlessly express such nonsense.
 Indeed, where one can find his or her match? In a car on a way to/from work, in a grocery store, or, perhaps, at executive meeting? Often dating sites on the web are the only ways to find someone for such people.
 You don't have to go somewhere, seeking right person, think what to say and how to approach.
 It is just opposite in the Internet: we contact another people, who have the same goals as ourselves.
 Small timeout will help you to regain your determination about meeting someone on-line.
 Just don't give up and don't be discouraged if you will not achieve the desired results immediately.
 Believe in your success, and it will come to you one day
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